Hi Stephanie, your "friend" is being instructed by the org to make you feel guilty. Don't play their game and become their victim.
Tell her that the compulsion to obey the governing body regardless of what they say - not to mention that salvation is only available through their organization - seriously conflicts with what you've learned from your studies of the scriptures over the years. Make her examine what she's accepting as "truth." (1 John 4:1)
(Matthew 23:8-10) But you, do not you be called Rabbi, for one is your Teacher, and all of you are brothers.....Neither be called leaders, for your Leader is one, the Christ.
(John 10:27) My sheep listen to my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. (not seven false Christs in Brooklyn)
(Acts 4:12) ....there is no salvation in anyone else, for there is not another name under heaven that has been given among men by which we must get saved." (not even JWdotORG!)